I was having a hard time with teen age daughter. after listening to calm parent it help me understand that out is not just het behaviors that affect the house but she could read some of the tensions I was having and it would not help the situation. I needed to realise that I was being part of the problem that I was unintentionally causing some issues by not dealing with my own emotions before trying to work with hers.
I LOVED THE PROGRAM I USED THIS WITH MY 21 YEAR OLD. SHE HAS BEEN ON HER OWN FOR 3 YEARS AND JUST MOVED BACK HOME IT HAS BEEN HARD FOR BOTH OF US. I HAVE LEARNED HOW TO SPEAK WITH HER AS AN ADULT I NAM NOT YELLING SCREAMING TREATING HER LIKE A 10 YEAR OLD.I HAVE SE BOUNDARIES AND MY HUSBAND SAID IT IS MUST CALMER AND HAPPIER AT OUR HOUSE I LOVE THE CD I USE THEM IN TRAFFIC
My wife and i had been trying to figure out for the longest time on how we could get our kids to listen, stop fighting, show respect, back talking, we found it through this program, it works, its hard not to yell at them when all they would like to do is back talk and not listen, we've been using the program for three weeks now and the difference in the response from our kids is phenomenal, we personally would recommend this program to anyone that is having any difficulty coping with odd behavior from their kids
My 15 yr old sons disrespectful behavior was the main reason for purchasing this program.
The program is working in a positive manner.
Our family is learning to communicate in a more respectful manner.
We all understand the importance of "listening" much more.
My son continues to challenge us but we're going in the right direction.
I bought the program hoping to help me communicate better with my son. I am able to communicate calmer and more in control. While I am staying calmer so does my son. Our communications have gotten better because of this program.
I have 3 disabled children with 6 different disabilities and sensory issues. As a single parent I have not only have I becomes stressed it was getting to the point of depression and I was afraid of passing that on to my children through learned behavior. I just want them to be ok and have a happy productive life all the way around and I feel that self control, good problem solving skills $ social skills to reduce stress. Life is hard enough without what I call self inflicted obsticals in life.
My children are ages 20 and 23. The course taught me how to be calm and effective as a parent. It also helped me to distinguish between my personal agenda and theirs. I am able to advise my children in a more deliberate manner and I am more effective. You never stop being a parent and as I have realized it is never to late to learn.
Before I listened to the Calm Parents CD, I used to shout at my children all the times, and even louder when I have to say the same thing over and over again. Now, I take a deep breath and count to ten slowly before I react and my reaction is more calmer.
I got the program to give to my girlfriend, who has a teenager son that seems to cause her endless torment over the littlest things. He seems like a normal mostly polite boy with a spunky sense of humor, that was getting lost on his mother. I thought the program would help her get the kind of responses from her son that would not set off her own buttons. I feel bad that she didnít even want to try to look at the program and try it. There is a lot of simple ideas here that I think she could have used to gain the calmness she so desperately needs in her life. Her frustrations eventually spilled over into our relation and made it impossible to stay around, and so we are no longer together.
I am a child psychotherapist that has been working with children most of my adult life. This program offered concrete/sequential tools that I have been able to share with parents. Parents have reported a tremendous difference in the behavior of their child, at home as well as in school. I will continue to share these valuable tools with parents. Thank you for this tremendous asset!
this set should be given to every new parent before leaving the hospital. this is the closest thing to a users manuel i believe. it has not only helped me be calmer with my children. but as a man that has been to anger management class' this beats it hands down. i am able to be calmer with all people who agitate and frustrate me. my only regreat is that i did not know of this sooner.
Hi, I am a Marriage, Family, and Child Therapist. I work primarily with adolescents who are on Probation in a group home. I meet with the families in both an individual and group setting. I find the principles and concepts of the calm parent helpful in conveying the message to the parents to stop blaming the child and take a look at themselves. Clearly their children made poor choices but this program has helped me help them to be able to get past the mistakes and work to heal the relationship. I am able to help them see they need to stop yelling and listen. I am grateful to have such a resource in my arsenal as I assist my clients toward healing.
REASON FOR PURCHASE WAS A GRANDCHILD OUT OF CONTROL. PARENTAL GUIDANCE WOULDN'T WORK. WITH THIS PROGRAM WE WERE ABLE TO LEARN THE PROPER WAY TO ADDRESS THE PROBLEMS IN THE PROPER WAY. TRY TO STAY CALM, NOT TO OUT ARGUE, TAKE TIME TO LISTEN TO CHILD AND SEE WHAT THE RIGHT APPROACH WOULD BE TO THE PROBLEM. THIS PROGRAM IS AMAZING AND WHEN WE PUT THE TECHNIQUES IN PLACE , THE CHILD RESPONDED IN A DIFFERENT WAY, HOPEFULLY WHEN WE COMPLETE THE TOTAL TRANSFORMATION PROGRAM WE WILL HAVE LEARNED TO RESPOND TO CONFLICTS IN A TOTAL DIFFERENT WAY. THANK YOU.
I realized that in the past that I have reacted to my daughters behavior. Instead stopping and calming myself down. I had been arguing and yelling. I could never understand why there were always problems. I am her mother why isn't she listening me? I would tell my husband, I am a bad mother. The Calm Parent helped me calm myself and gave me the knowledge to gain control of the situation. The moment that I started to use the program I saw huge changes.
This program was very helpful to both my husband and myself. The biggest problems parents have is the question, "what and how do I speak to my child in situations that would typically getting me outraged." The calm parent helped with answering that question. Thank you for the program!
Purchased the program to help in relationship with our children. It gives a good insight into how your child responds to your actions. Listened to it several times and learned more each time. Results are slow, but it took a long time to get to where we are, and it will take time to straighten out. It is worth it.
Words can't begin to express how I feel about the calm parent CD's. I was very skeptical... I even started listening to the total transformation first and was not considering the calm parent. I called into the parent hotline one day and they suggested I start listening to the calm parent cd's bc they go hand in hand with the total transformation. I realized after the first two CD's what a mess my relationship had been with my daughter and all bc of the way I was responding and not keeping myself calm. It's very hard to do when you have no instruction. I am using the technique's daily and my household is no longer a screaming match. I walk away, I stay calm and to my surprise my daughter is listening more. we still struggle of course but she is actually communicating with me better and I am communicating better with her. You do have to practice bc old habits are hard to break but I am continually paying attention to my reaction all the time now and remaining calm no matter how much I wish to explode. I have been recommending this whole package to my friends and they all have noticed the difference in my attitude and my daughters attitude. Teenagers really know how to get under your skin but when you realize they have a perspective to and we have to sometimes be open to listeneing to them things begin to move forward in a productive way.
I ordered The Calm Parent because I have ADHD grandchildren. I wish I had had this info when I was raising my ADHD son. I feel much more in control of each situation. The children take their cues from me and become more calm themselves.
The program speaks to the same revolving door that our family has struggled with. I especially benefitted from attention to the fusion and given me peace to realize the difference between how I want my children to succeed; and them making their own way. Raising teens is SO different from young children; I wish I had known how to transition to independence as they age (in my age). Some involves giving my ADHD kids more chances to do things their way!
My kids are making mistakes, but now I realize it's ok that they fail. And I am not a bad parent if they were taught the "right" way. That it is normal.
As a social worker on private practice and a single mom of two kids I was excited to learn about how actual remain calm during very trying times with your children . Calm parent gives you logical information and hands on tools to put their program into practice . It is designed to teach parents in a clear and practical step by step program how to understand why we as parents loose our cool and have difficulty maintaining a calm environment. Once understand why we can not just be calm and really understand what is behind our frustrations then to maintain a calm household is much more attainable. As a family therapist and a mom I have completed the entire program and have seen amazing changes in my home. I have shared the program with clients and they too have seen positive changes in their understanding and behaviour resulting in a calmer way to deal with their children. I highly recommend this program as a mom and social worker.
I really enjoyed this program. I mostly listened to the cd's and didn't do all the workbook work so I really am reviewing the cd content. It was very good and helped me as a parent and individual. I am working at using the techniques on an ongoing basis. It is still early to comment on it's overall effect on the family but I can only see it as being helpful to the entire family dynamic. The principles really can also be applied to relationships in general. I recommend this program.
I was caring for my 10 year old grandson, and he was acting willful and uncooperative. All he wanted to do was play video games. He d was cranky and disrespectful. I learned to keep my emotions in control, and calmly set up consequences for his behavior. I had to learn how to be more assertive, and set limits without getting angry.
I have a daughter with behavioral disorders and at times it is next to impossible to stay calm during her outbursts. The biggest thing I took away from this program was thinking about how I want our relationship to be down the road.